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Post time: 18-5-2019 10:37:10
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Why Are Men Obsessed With Masturbating in Public?



Disclaimer: #NotAllMen because by the time I’m done typing this article, my capacity to be answerable to the offended “good” men left out there would be as lightweight as a jerked off penis.
Three years back, in class XI, I was on a family vacation when I got masturbated at. I was standing in hotel’s balcony and I saw the gardener eagerly sticking out his ding-dong from the lawn downstairs. Two years back, a woman boarded a Mumbai local to head home around 2 pm and while sitting in the women’s carriage, she noticed a man leaning over the railing of the next carriage, masturbating at her and other women. When she told him she would call the police, he threatened to rape her before abruptly getting off the train.
A month after the incident, a woman posted a picture on Facebook of her trousers that appeared to have semen wiped on them. Someone had masturbated onto her clothes while on the 9 am commute on the Delhi Metro. Yet another few months later, an Uber driver in Hyderabad kept glancing at his passenger through the rearview mirror and masturbated while driving, while she was busy talking on the phone and reading texts. When she noticed, she screamed and immediately asked him to stop the vehicle.
Very recently, a girl from Mumbai shared a video on Twitter and Instagram of a man flashing his private part and making lewd gestures at her in an ATM.

So here we are, in our cramped hostels and nosy houses trying to find a quiet spot to do our khud-khushi while our male counterparts are very desperately airing their desires in public. Here’s a question for all the men out there: Is it more pleasurable to do in public? Like taking idli-sambar to a picnic instead of just happily eating at home?
Public masturbators seem to needlessly involve us in their picnic, so it can’t be mere pleasure alone.
One could say that it goes way back in history. Ancient Egyptian men venerated masturbation.

It formed the crux of their creation myth: the God Atum created the world by wanking it into existence. Atum’s act was re-enacted every year to ensure a good crop. So the next time you get wanked at in the ATM (because entering ATMs to withdraw your prize out of your pants seems to be the newest fad in town), you might be able to justify it as men following the will of God himself.So here we are, in our cramped hostels and nosy houses trying to find a quiet spot to do our khud-khushi while our male counterparts are very desperately airing their desires in public. Here’s a question for all the men out there: Is it more pleasurable to do in public? Like taking idli-sambar to a picnic instead of just happily eating at home?
Public masturbators seem to needlessly involve us in their picnic, so it can’t be mere pleasure alone.
One could say that it goes way back in history. Ancient Egyptian men venerated masturbation.
It formed the crux of their creation myth: the God Atum created the world by wanking it into existence. Atum’s act was re-enacted every year to ensure a good crop. So the next time you get wanked at in the ATM (because entering ATMs to withdraw your prize out of your pants seems to be the nSo here we are, in our cramped hostels and nosy houses trying to find a quiet spot to do our khud-khushi while our male counterparts are very desperately airing their desires in public. Here’s a question for all the men out there: Is it more pleasurable to do in public? Like taking idli-sambar to a picnic instead of just happily eating at home?
Public masturbators seem to needlessly involve us in their picnic, so it can’t be mere pleasure alone.
One could say that it goes way back in history. Ancient Egyptian men venerated masturbation.
It formed the crux of their creation myth: the God Atum created the world by wanking it into existence. Atum’s act was re-enacted every year to ensure a good crop. So the next time you get wanked at in the ATM (because entering ATMs to withdraw your prize out of your pants seems to be the newest fad in town), you might be able to justify it as men following the will of God himself.
ewest fad in town), you might be able to justify it as men following the will of God himself.
But if you’re an atheist (or worse a feminist, or even worse a woman whose dignity is at stake), cases of public masturbation can be filed under Section 354 of the Indian Penal Code [IPC], which deals with “assault or criminal force to women with the intent to outrage her modesty,” Section 509 which deals with “gesture or acts intended to insult the modesty of a woman,” and/or Section 268, which handles cases of public nuisance.
“Just like all sexual crimes, targeting women to masturbate at is also about power and freedom, not just sex,” claims a man who is ‘pro-public masturbation’. He says, “It’s such a crowded city and we men hardly find space, let alone favourable ones, to express our sexual desires with a partner. So, some men (I’m not saying me) find themselves wanting to release their frustration at women in public places like bus stops and trains. And there are too many people in these public places for one to notice anyway.” Obviously, until your uncensored face and censored ding-dong is all over the internet (now no one saw that coming, did they?)

Something that I would like to assume is that perhaps picking on strangers to masturbate at makes it easier for these men. In my opinion, there might be an aspect of depersonalisation on part of the man since he might not know the woman. This gives public masturbators a peculiar pleasure. For example, voyeuristic masturbation might make them look at the woman less like a victim and themselves less like a criminal until (surprise surprise!) they get caught.

What works behind the psychology of a public masturbator may, however, go beyond voyeuristic tendencies. Apparently, research shows that some public masturbators fetishise it. Now everyone has fetishes – foot fetishes, hand fetishes, role-play fetishes, cross-dressing fetishes and what not. But with public masturbators, the difference is that their fetish harms the object of their fetish: women in public (duh). The difference between most fetishes and public masturbation is, that acting on the former may be consensual, while the latter definitely isn’t.
Let’s look for another plausible explanation here. These men gain pleasure through reactions of shock and/or shame from women and this is another form of validation that keeps them coming back for more. When a woman witnesses public masturbation, the first and immediate reaction is usually that of shock. They freeze due to disgust which, perhaps, only adds to the arousal of public masturbators.

Now it is important to understand that public masturbation is multidimensional in nature (who would’ve thought, right?). Men have masturbated at all kinds of women, not just the stereotypical “fashionable modern young girl” who is (quite literally) hard to get and therefore more pleasurable to try at. It’s also quite an assumption to say that a public masturbator comes from a specific economic class. The man jerking off behind you on the metro might not be multi-millionaire Harvey Weinstein, but that just means that men like him find it easier to do it at actresses in air-conditioned boardroom meetings.

The view that public masturbation is not a “serious” crime only instigates perpetrators, especially with a culture of wanting to bury embarrassing sexual advances under the carpet – which the public masturbators know and take advantage of. Trivialising it reduces fear of the law and the consequences of masturbating in public. It actually leaves a victim feeling the same way other sexual crimes do: disgusted, enraged and violated. It takes up space in our minds that we all know we could use for something else that’s far less unpleasant.
Meanwhile, the jerks continue jerking off and hardly a handful of them end up in jail. But then again, I’m just a woman with no penis, and commenting on what men ought to do with theirs must be a greater offence. But then again, some men with no uteruses are out there making laws on what women ought to do with theirs.


Lisa Mandal is a 19-year-old BA student residing in Bangalore and pursuing a triple major in Journalism, Psychology and English Literature from Christ University. She likes poetry, pasta, and cinnamon glazed donuts. If she could turn snarky sarcasm into a paying job, she would be employed for eternity. You can find her on Instagram as @lisamandal.

SOURCE: https://livewire.thewire.in/gender-and-sexuality/why-are-men-obsessed-with-masturbating-in-public/





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Very well written article, identifying a very shameful activity. Shameful because some demented people feel that they can get away with this, and also because this is not checked by the people who see it - specifically, men around such wankers. I don't think it is justifiable by any stretch of imagination, and must be curbed. A simple thing like people taking out their phones and making video recording or taking a pic of the act will be sufficient to scare such jerks. The feeling and confidence that they can do this unchecked and get away with it must surely be brought to end by public and police both.
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Image ajayjohri Image 24-7-2019 02:06 PM
Very well written article, identifying a very shameful activity. Shameful because some demented peop ...

Very correctly said. This happens in big cities as there is no identity to anyone and a lot of men are sex starved. It is disgusting to women but is shameful for men too. it is an insult of their (watcher's ) manhood. It goes without punishment in big cities because everyone is in hurry.
But your suggestion of recording is correct. with recording in hand we can lodge a complaint with police.
Direct action from people is a dream now a days.
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